“How to co-parent with a narcissist? I’m at my whits end with him”
I am not sure if your co-parent has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder or if you are using the term ‘narcissist’ to describe someone who is very self-centred.
In any case, here are some useful tips for you to take:
- Accept that he probably won’t change.
- Set clear boundaries. Draw the line on what is OK and what is not.
- Make a parenting plan. Doing so will help you to establish clear boundaries and rules and it will hopefully help avoid future disagreements. There are some examples in the link below.
- Do not talk badly about him to your child. Refer about him in a respectful way. Try to appreciate his good points and not linger on his faults.
- Consider therapy. If handling it on your own, is getting too much, therapy might be a good idea. The therapist will help you manage difficult scenarios and will also help you manage your feelings. If your child is having a tough time, counselling for him may be a good idea. Get in touch with me if you want to explore this idea.
You may also find these articles interesting:
What Is a Narcissistic Parent?
Create a Successful Parenting Plan (& Parenting Template Ideas)
Co-parenting is not easy but co-parenting with someone who is extremely self-centred can feel like an impossible task. I wish you and your family all the very best.
Love,
Ana
