Which Parenting Style Rewards Children for Following the Rules?
“Which parenting style rewards children for following the rules?“

Authoritative parenting is the parenting style that is more likely to reward children for following the rules. Authoritative parenting is considered the gold standard of parenting. Authoritative parents are warm, caring, and establish clear limits for their children. Children understand those limits and rules and what the consequences are when they break them. Parents take into consideration their children’s opinions and feelings but ultimately, they are the ones who make the decisions.
There are hundreds of studies showing that children whose parents are authoritative, tend to do better in life. These children tend to be well adjusted, get on well with their peers and friends, do well in school and have high self-esteem. Children feel safe and secure because their parents are consistent and establish clear routines
The issue of rewarding children for good behaviour is somewhat controversial. Some people say that rewarding them is not a good idea because it promotes extrinsic and not intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is doing an activity because of the satisfaction it brings you, rather than for an external reward. For example, reading a book because you are interested in its story, or learning to ride a bike because of the sense of achievement.
In contrast, extrinsic motivation is pursuing an activity for an external reward, such as a material item or someone’s praise. For example, sharing with friends in exchange for more screen time or sweets. Ideally, we want our children to be intrinsically motivated.
A good way to reward children for good behaviour is using praise. As parents very often, we ignore good behaviour and we only focus on negative behavior. Children love their parents to be happy with them, so the more you let them know that you like what they are doing, the more likely they are to repeat it. When you praise them, be specific. Rather than saying: “You are such a good boy”, say “Look how well you are sharing with your sister, well done!”. This way they know exactly what they are doing right and are more likely to repeat it.
So, praise your child when they do things right. Try to be an authoritative parent as often as you can.
Here are some other articles that you may find useful:
Parenting Styles: What Are They and Why Do They Matter?
Reward System for Children: How Do They Work?
I hope this information helps. I wish you and your family all the very best,
Love,
Ana
Qué fantástico artículo y que buenos consejos. Ha sido de una gran ayuda. Un abrazo muy fuerte
Maravilloso artículo sobre la serie Adolescentes y consejos de gran ayuda en una etapa tan complicada de nuestros hijos , tan desprotegidos frente a las nuevas tecnologías.Es una ayuda tremenda para nosotros. Muchas gracias
I'd imagine this is quite deteremental for a childs development in the long run as nothing stays the same forever, and we shouldn't really be making these categorisations, especially towards our children.
Just live life, sometimes you'll have to be the parent that's the shoulder to cry on. The week after you may have to raise your voice a little when everyone is in a rush and you're trying to get your children's shoes on.
Just balance it all out, don't be too self critical and pick up on what your child wants and needs.
Again, great writeup!
Thank you so much for your comment. I totally get what you mean. It is always difficult to have kids living with you, wanting to support them and their parents but at the same time not wanting to step in anyone's toes. If there's anything we can do to support you and your family, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us.
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sO great to have you here! Totally agree that Zara is great! What other topics would you like us to discuss?
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