What Kind of Discipline Do You Recommend?
“When it comes to types of discipline, what kind of discipline do you recommend? Don’t want to use physical punishments but I’m also wary of telling my kid off, in case it’s psychologically damaging”
It is completely normal to feel unsure about how to discipline your child, especially if you are trying to find a way that feels loving but still firm. The best approach is called inductive discipline.
Inductive discipline focuses on helping your child understand why a behaviour is wrong. This approach encourages thoughtful conversations, instead of punishing or saying “Because I say so”. So, every time your child misbehaves, you tell him why what he did is wrong and how he should behave next time. If you do this every time he misbehaves, over time your child will develop a strong inner moral compass. He will behave well not because he fears the consequences, but because he truly understands why what he did was wrong. Telling him off in a constructive way will not damage your child, on the contrary, your child needs you to set clear limits and boundaries. Our children need us to be their guides, they need us to say ‘no’, they need us to set limits. Setting limits for our children is a way of loving them. Telling them off in a constructive way is a way of setting limits and is a way of loving them.
You are absolutely right not wanting to use physical punishment. Physical punishment is never good for children. It does not teach them anything and it is negative for their mental health and their development.
I am leaving you here some articles that you will find useful and let me know if you want one-to-one support to discuss this further.
How to Discipline Your Child: An Age-By-Age Guide
Is Smacking Your Child Ever OK?
Let’s Be Honest: Who Doesn’t Ever Yell at Their Kids?
I wish you both all the very best.
Love,
Ana
Qué fantástico artículo y que buenos consejos. Ha sido de una gran ayuda. Un abrazo muy fuerte
Maravilloso artículo sobre la serie Adolescentes y consejos de gran ayuda en una etapa tan complicada de nuestros hijos , tan desprotegidos frente a las nuevas tecnologías.Es una ayuda tremenda para nosotros. Muchas gracias
I'd imagine this is quite deteremental for a childs development in the long run as nothing stays the same forever, and we shouldn't really be making these categorisations, especially towards our children.
Just live life, sometimes you'll have to be the parent that's the shoulder to cry on. The week after you may have to raise your voice a little when everyone is in a rush and you're trying to get your children's shoes on.
Just balance it all out, don't be too self critical and pick up on what your child wants and needs.
Again, great writeup!
Thank you so much for your comment. I totally get what you mean. It is always difficult to have kids living with you, wanting to support them and their parents but at the same time not wanting to step in anyone's toes. If there's anything we can do to support you and your family, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us.
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sO great to have you here! Totally agree that Zara is great! What other topics would you like us to discuss?
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