My Daughter Had an Embarrassing Accident at School

“I need advice for helping my 10 yo through an embarrassing incident at school: she had an accident in class and the other kids laughed at her wet trousers until my husband could get there with a change of clothes. Now she doesn’t want to go to class and it’s a fight every morning.” 

I am so sorry that your daughter is going through this. It must have been awful for her. I think that there are a few messages that you should give her: 

• She has done nothing wrong. She shouldn’t be ashamed of what happened. These are just accidents that can happen to any of us. The issue is not with her but with the children that laughed at her. They should not have behaved that way because it is unkind.  

• She may be worried that it may happen again. Design a plan with her so she knows what to do. Having this plan will decrease her anxiety.  

• If she feels anxious before going to school try to do breathing exercises with her so she feels more relaxed.  

• If your daughter has a good friend, maybe she could wait for at the school entrance, so she they can go in together.  

• Be there for her. Sometimes as parents, there is not much we can do, other than sitting with our children while they process their pain.  

I hope this helps! If you want to more support, please get in touch with me. 

Love to you and your family,  

Ana 

Dr Ana Aznar