Is ADHD an Excuse for Bad Behaviour?
“Please can you tell me, is ADHD a behavioural disorder, in actuality? I want to know if my daughter is using it as an excuse for her son’s bad behaviour when they come round to ours.”
Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder. Children who experience it have difficulties paying attention, and/or controlling their impulses and regulating their behaviour. It is a real disorder, not an excuse for bad behaviour. Children with ADHD want to behave well but they can’t. They do it the best they can.
I encourage you to support your daughter. Being the parent of a children with ADHD can be very demanding, especially if your grandson is presenting challenging behaviour often. It is not surprising that parents of neurodivergent children are more likely to experience mental health issues and to leave their jobs. After all, these parents have all the worries that all parents have, but at the same time they have to navigate diagnosis, treatments, medication, and doctor visits, while feeling judged and very often blamed for their children’s behaviour.
You can make a big difference in your daughter’s life by supporting her and her son. Do not blame her for your grandson’s behaviour because parents do not cause their children’s ADHD. ADHD is real. It is not an excuse for bad behaviour.
I hope this information helps. If you want to discuss this issue further in a 1-2-1 session, please get in touch with me.
Here are some articles you may find useful:
How to Support a 12-Year-Old with Autism and ADHD
Executive Functions: Everything You Need to Know
I wish you and your family all the very best.
Love,
Ana
Qué fantástico artículo y que buenos consejos. Ha sido de una gran ayuda. Un abrazo muy fuerte
Maravilloso artículo sobre la serie Adolescentes y consejos de gran ayuda en una etapa tan complicada de nuestros hijos , tan desprotegidos frente a las nuevas tecnologías.Es una ayuda tremenda para nosotros. Muchas gracias
I'd imagine this is quite deteremental for a childs development in the long run as nothing stays the same forever, and we shouldn't really be making these categorisations, especially towards our children.
Just live life, sometimes you'll have to be the parent that's the shoulder to cry on. The week after you may have to raise your voice a little when everyone is in a rush and you're trying to get your children's shoes on.
Just balance it all out, don't be too self critical and pick up on what your child wants and needs.
Again, great writeup!
Thank you so much for your comment. I totally get what you mean. It is always difficult to have kids living with you, wanting to support them and their parents but at the same time not wanting to step in anyone's toes. If there's anything we can do to support you and your family, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us.
Ana
Ana
sO great to have you here! Totally agree that Zara is great! What other topics would you like us to discuss?
Ana
Ana
