Category: ChildhoodQ&As

How to Tell my Kids Santa Is Not Real?

Published : Nov 28, 2025
By Dr. Ana Aznar

“Advice for how to tell my kids that santa isn’t real? (eight and twelve year old boys)” 

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Research shows that most children start to figure out that Santa is not real around age 8. Most children come to this conclusion on their own when they realize the story is physically impossible.  

Children report feeling better when they manage to find the truth by themselves. So, I would suggest that you let them be. They will figure it out sooner rather than later.  

It could be that your boys many know but they choose not to tell you because they want to keep the magic going or because they think you will be sad once you know they know. By the time your child comes to discuss it, they usually have given it plenty of thought and are ready to face reality.  

I wish you all the very best and a very merry Christmas! 

Love, 

Ana 

Dr Ana Aznar 

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