What Are Your Thoughts on Teens Having Sex with Teens?
“What are your thoughts on teens having sex with teens? I want my daughter to wait until she is legal to drink before even thinking about having sex, but I’m worried that she’s just going to dive right in before she’s 21 and not tell me or be safe about it because she’s too young (she’s 17 now)”
There is not a ‘right’ age to have sex for the first time. I totally get that you want your daughter to wait but the truth is that your daughter will probably do whatever she wants to do.
I think that rather than trying to forbid her to have sex, you should discuss this topic with her, so she understands your concerns and the risks. Prepare her for it. And remember that it is not about having THE talk but about having little talks often.
It would be a good idea for you two to discuss:
- Sexual consent
- Contraception
- STIs (sexual transmitted infections) and STDs (sexual transmitted diseases)
- Love: sometimes when we talk about sex, conversations can feel quite ‘mechanical’. I think it is important that we talk about how sex is best when mixed with love and a romantic relationship
You may also find these article useful:
Discussing Teen Sex: Talking to Your Teen About Sex
My Teen Is Sexting: What Do I Do?
I wish you and your daughter all the very best.
Love,
Ana
Maravilloso artículo sobre la serie Adolescentes y consejos de gran ayuda en una etapa tan complicada de nuestros hijos , tan desprotegidos frente a las nuevas tecnologías.Es una ayuda tremenda para nosotros. Muchas gracias
I'd imagine this is quite deteremental for a childs development in the long run as nothing stays the same forever, and we shouldn't really be making these categorisations, especially towards our children.
Just live life, sometimes you'll have to be the parent that's the shoulder to cry on. The week after you may have to raise your voice a little when everyone is in a rush and you're trying to get your children's shoes on.
Just balance it all out, don't be too self critical and pick up on what your child wants and needs.
Again, great writeup!
Thank you so much for your comment. I totally get what you mean. It is always difficult to have kids living with you, wanting to support them and their parents but at the same time not wanting to step in anyone's toes. If there's anything we can do to support you and your family, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us.
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sO great to have you here! Totally agree that Zara is great! What other topics would you like us to discuss?
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Qué fantástico artículo y que buenos consejos. Ha sido de una gran ayuda. Un abrazo muy fuerte