I Am Pregnant and Dreading It, What’s Wrong with Me?
“I am 5 months pregnant right now and struggling. i was very excited to have a baby at first, but now i’d say that i have mid-pregnancy cold feet, even though so many other moms im friends with find this the best time of their lives and are so happy and excited and nesting, while i’m just dreading it all. what’s wrong with me?”
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Becoming a mother is a massive change, and it is totally normal to go through phases of euphoria, fear, panic, happiness, and everything in between. The problem is that because it is not socially acceptable to admit that you may be having negative feelings around motherhood, we don’t talk about it, and because we don’t talk about it, we feel that there is something wrong with us. Not at all. Whatever you are feeling, it is fine. The important thing is that you allow these negative feelings, that you acknowledge them, and if you can, share them with someone that gets it.
You are going through a process called matrescence. This is the process of becoming a mother and unfortunately, it is still a process that is not well understood, nor talked about. I feel very passionateabout spreading the word around matrescence and I coach women who are going through this process, let me know if you are interested.
Here are a few articles that will help you understand better what you are going through:
Matrescence: Are We Finally Understanding Motherhood?
How to Survive a Newborn? It Is So Hard!
I hope this helps! I wish you all the best.
Regards,
Ana
