Are Teen Parents Destined to Fail?
“Can teen parents actually be okay in the end or is it always destined to fail? my daughter is fifteen and pregnant, and i keep seeing horror stories of teen moms spiralling into drugs and sex work and horrible other things. She seems fairly stable with her boyfriend at this point, but they’re fifteen and who knows if they’ll stick together even though I of course hope so, so he can help with the baby. I’ll also help, but as a single dad I’m often away for work and am just worried that my daughter is not going to be okay. Thanks you for listening to my rant!”
I totally get you are worried about your daughter.
In general, teen mothers do have it more difficult, because they need to face extra challenges, but this does not mean they are destined to fail.
Here are some ideas that tend to help teenage mothers:
- Social Support is key: Your daughter is more likely to do well if she has your support and the support of other important adults in her life.
- Academic support: very often teen mothers drop out of school because they cannot juggle everything. Talk with her school, so that together you can all support her to finish school.
- Community support: I don’t know what type of community support there is in your local area but try to get as much support as you can and encourage your daughter to get involved. Often teenagers lack the confidence to ask for help, and they are afraid of being judged; encourage her to seek support.
- Parenting classes: ideally, she should start them during pregnancy, so she feels prepared once the baby arrives. Research shows that parents who feel well informed when they have a baby, tend to feel more confident raising their child. This is very positive for the baby and for the parent.
- Explore contraceptive options: teenage mothers are at a high risk of getting pregnant again, so with her and her doctor, look into contraceptive options.
- Discuss mental health: teenage mothers are at a high risk of developing depression; it may be a good idea to take her to a therapist if she shows signs of struggling with everything she is facing.
- Keep an eye on her diet: teenage mums are more likely to have a poor diet.
Finally, you also have a lot on your plate, so remember to take care of yourself. I hope this information helps. Do not hesitate to get in touch, if there is anything you want to discuss.
I wish you all the best.
Regards,
Ana
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