How to Help a Depressed Mother?

“Do you have any ideas on how to help a depressed mother? My daughter in law is struggling with her mental health and I’m worried it’ll affect my grandkids too” 

As you very well know, becoming a mother is the biggest transition a woman will ever experience, yet no one really prepares us for it. No wonder your daughter in law is struggling!  

Here are some ideas for you to consider: 

• Giver her a hand: you can offer to do some of the housework, take your grandchildren out for a few hours so your daughter-in-law can do something she enjoys or send her some food, so she does not need to cook.  

• I don’t know how your relationship is, but you could suggest her to see a mental health professional specialized in maternal mental health. Do get in touch with me if this is something you would like to explore.  

• Be open about depression: sometimes it is difficult to open up and share how we feel. Tell her that it is OK to feel whatever she is feeling, that you won’t judge her, and that you are ready to listen.  

• Really listen: ask her questions and listen to what she has to say. Show her how good it can feel to open up.  

• Sometimes a person who is experiencing depression may reject any help. It is understandable for you to feel frustrated but to remain calm and accept that there is only so much you can do.  

• Keep in touch: just a text or a quick call will remind her that you are there for her. 

• I don’t know the age of your grandchildren but make sure you are there for them and let them feel listened and loved.   

• Talk to your son: discuss how best to support her.  

I wish you all the very best.  

Ana 

Dr Ana Aznar 

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